Sally Smith Cross died on Feb. 2 in Concord. She was 92.

She was born in 1929 in New York, the daughter of F. Harold Smith and Pauline V. Curtiss. She had a broad affection for anyone who traversed her path: city and country neighbors, classmates at The Chapin School and Vassar College (1951), and colleagues in the administration of Sloan-Kettering Cancer Institute, which she joined after college. She rejoiced equally in summer hijinks with her family in Washingtonville, N.Y. and the exhilaration of winters filled with classical music, art and vibrant conversation.

In 1955, through the amateur theatrical group The Blue Hill Troupe, she met the tall and rather reserved banker William R. Cross Jr. (1917-2002). The wedding of close friends two years later set a romance in motion. They married on June 14, 1958 and had three children: Bill, born 1959; Polly in 1960; and Fred in 1962. Her long-widowed mother in law Julia welcomed the growing family into the brick townhouse to which she had moved four decades earlier when her husband Bill was a baby.

In 1973, their Bedford, N.Y. weekend house became their principal home, complemented by a Chilmark cottage whose simplicity sweetened her Vineyard joy. For more than 20 years of Bill’s battle with Parkinson’s, Sally’s marriage was her ministry and mission.

In 2006, four years after Bill’s death, she moved to Newbury Court in Concord, where she flourished amid new friends and activities that she embraced with enthusiasm. She took special delight in travel (best of all with grandchildren) that stretched minds and legs in equal measure. In her later years, an able cadre of loving, wise and faithful aides allowed her to live and die there in dignity, safety and comfort.

Her daughter Pauline C. Reeve and her husband Brock of Concord, and her two sons William R. Cross and his wife Ellen of Manchester, and Frederic N. Cross and his wife Jane of Easton, Md., give thanks for the care from all those who assisted her, especially Hilda Mbugua, Fortunate Mbabazi and Margaret Marume who had been a big part of her life for the past year and more. Six grandchildren also survive her: Nate Reeve and his wife Caroline of Houston, Adam Reeve of Cambridge, Hannah Reeve and her fiancé Nick Kowalski of New York, Gavin Cross of Shanghai, Ben Cross of Pittsburgh, and Charlie Cross of Charleston. Her grandson Sam Cross, brother Robert I. Smith and half-brother F. Harold Smith Jr. predeceased her.

Relatives and friends are invited to a funeral service at Newbury Court’s Duvall Chapel, 80 Deaconess Road in Concord on Saturday, Feb. 19 at 2 p.m., followed by a private interment.

The service will be livestreamed; those attending in person are encouraged to arrive early for Covid-19 screening on entry.

Donations can be made to the New England Deaconess Association to support the Newbury Court Resident Scholarship Fund, c/o New England Deaconess Association, 80 Deaconess Road, Concord, MA 01742.

Arrangements are under the care of Dee Funeral Home & Cremation Service of Concord. For online guestbook and service livestream link, visit