Dr. Francis J. Lanzone of Edgartown and Manhasset, N.Y., died peacefully but unexpectedly on July 12. He was 62.
Frank, affectionately known to many as The Doc, was a longtime, well-respected orthopedic surgeon in Mineola and Garden City, N.Y. He enjoyed visiting the family house on the Vineyard to spend time with his daughters who reside there.
He made it a habit to pilot his Cessna 210 to the Island almost every weekend to see Alyson (Aly) and Ashley-Rose (Rosey) while they were growing up on the Vineyard. If the weather was too foreboding, he would make the long drive from New York to Woods Hole because nothing would stop him from visiting. Frank spent weekends teaching the girls how to drive, cook, fish, hit softballs and play guitar. He introduced them to his favorite music and taught them how to listen, love and care. Lunch at the Newes for French onion soup was always part of the routine, and he loved to soak up the sun and brave the rip tide at South Beach.
Frank remained close to Aly and Ashley-Rose at all times and was there at all the important junctures in their lives including horse shows, holidays and graduations. He never missed out on anything that was important to his daughters and to his family, whom he cherished all his days. They are very sad at his parting, but it is such good fortune that he was able to give both daughters away in their marriages: Aly to Elisha Wiesner of Chilmark and Ashley-Rose to Matthew Killough of North Carolina. Frank proudly walked them down the aisle and beamed with pride. He loved his two daughters with all his heart and he cared for his sons in law as if they were his own sons. He was thrilled to know that he would soon be a grandfather as Ashley-Rose and Matthew are expecting in September. Suzanne and Frank remained close friends to the end and together they defined so elegantly the idea of co-parenting, which they did with grace.
When Frank graced any room with his presence, it was grand. He had a larger-than-life personality and an incredible humanness about him. He was an outstanding and generous caretaker always putting others before himself. Frank had a big smile, a great hug and charm that was irresistible. He did so much in his short life, really living each day to the fullest. He did everything well — surgeon, medical director at Day-Op Center, working for the Nassau County police department, pilot, father, sibling, friend, husband, playing guitar, driving race cars for fun, and more. Frank had an extraordinary work ethic, which he instilled in his daughters, but he also knew how to enjoy life. The world has lost a remarkable protector, caregiver, confidant, comedian, surgeon and friend. Frank was so proud of his family and they were so proud of him. He will be in their hearts forever.
He was the cherished and adored father of Alyson Lanzone Wiesner and her husband Elisha, and Ashley-Rose Lanzone Killough and her husband Matthew; beloved husband of Zora Lanzone; devoted son of the late Wanda and Joseph A. Lanzone, MD; caring former husband of Suzanne Lanzone; and loving brother of John A. Lanzone, M.D. and his wife Kathleen, Theresa C. Lanzone, M.D. and her partner Raymond; Joan A. Lanzone-Shank D.D.S. and her husband Duane; Wanda J. Lanzone Hannigan D.M.D. and her husband Stephen, and Joseph A. Lanzone, M.D. and his wife Kerry.
Frank was interred beside his parents at Holy Rood Cemetery in Westbury, N.Y.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Wounded Warrior Project at woundedwarriorproject.org.